I Wrote This Book Because I Love You by Tim Kreider

When Tim Kreider was in college, he was faced with a difficult decision. After dating his girlfriend for several years, he decided it was time to break up. But he didn’t want to forget all the memories they shared together. So, instead of letting them fade away, Tim chose to write a book about his relationship and all the emotions involved.

This is how the book I Wrote This Book Because I Love You starts. It tells the story of Tim and his former relationship, but it does much more than that. Through his honest words, Kreider takes readers on a journey through the past, exploring the joys, heartaches, and discoveries which were unearthed throughout the relationship.

The book is organized into four parts: Friendship, Courtship, Breakup, and Healing. The Friendship section is especially poignant, as readers see how the relationship began and unfolded through the eyes of someone who is looking back in hindsight. This section shows the reader the beauty of Tim’s relationship, but acknowledges that even the best relationships have their flaws. The Courtship section shows the reader the struggles of choosing to stay together or break up and explores how difficult yet important these decisions are.

The Breakup section is arguably the book’s most impactful section. Tim shares what was going on in both his and his former partner’s head in the lead-up to and aftermath of the breakup. It’s the most emotionally raw section of arguably the entire book, and it would be almost impossible not to feel for both Tim and his former partner. The Healing section explores what comes after a breakup and the essence of healing. Tim shares his struggles of dealing with a broken heart and advocating for himself as he moves on with his life. He also breaks down why it’s important to remember and honour the person who was once so important to you.

I Wrote This Book Because I Love You is a powerful, heart-wrenching story. It touches on the many complexities of relationships and emphasizes why it’s necessary to keep a relationship alive. It’s an honest examination of the successes and casualties of relationships, and it unmasks its characters in ways that are both raw and beautiful.

Ultimately, I Wrote This Book Because I Love You is about perspective. It offers readers insight into how wounds don’t always heal, and how examining the past can be a powerful way to understand and accept that life is filled with love, moments of pain, and memories that will never quite disappear. It’s an important read for anyone struggling through their own breakup or looking for solace when dealing with the scars of a former relationship.