Terrence Real
Terrence Real has been a highly sought-after therapist, author, and speaker for over 30 years. His work has focused on helping people live and love with authenticity, resonance, and joy. He is known not only for his wise advice, but also for his humorous and down-to-earth delivery. So it’s no surprise that many of his books, such as I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, The New Rules of Marriage, The Truth about Love, and the recently released Ready for Love, are highly acclaimed and beloved.
I Don't Want to Talk About It, published in 1997, was perhaps Terrence Real’s most successful book. It focuses on men's depression, and was ahead of its time in addressing the issue. In it, Real outlines a theory of depression as a response to unmet emotional needs and then combines this with practical techniques for healing, such as reframing stories, re-parenting and self-care. His approach acknowledges the experience of being a man within a patriarchal society and how this affects a man's emotional development, and he offers tools for overcoming this. The book was a great success, and even now almost 20 years after its release, it is still being widely recommended and used by readers.
How Can I Get Through to You?, originally published in 2002, is Real's groundbreaking work on understanding marriage, the marital dynamic and ways to create a successful and satisfying relationship. He offers clear and practical advice on the art of communication, such as listening and talking that leads to understanding, rather than defensiveness. He also explains why it is so important to allow each partner to have space and creativity, as well as how to deal with blame and be quickly and effectively responsive. After years of pushing this book as a must-read, Real and his wife Ilene came out with the revised edition, The New Rules of Marriage in 2006. This updated version has become highly successful and widely seen as the best book for modern couples looking to live and love better.
Real's 2003 book, The Truth about Love, is an insightful look at how to build, nurture and sustain intimacy in a relationship. He explains the four core emotional needs that must be met in order for a relationships to be strong and satisfying, and he provides readers with strategies to meet them. In addition, he examines the impact of technology and how it impacts relationships, from infidelity to couples neglecting each other due to their pursuit of social media. Real's latest book, Ready for Love, is about about how to find and keep the right partner for you. He includes information on making a realistic assessment of yourself and your expectations, as well as skillful communication and creating true intimacy.
No matter what genre of writing Real puts his hands to, the result is always non-judgmental and fresh insight into relationships and communication. His books are very much in line with the latest findings in psychology, while still being entertaining and accessible to a wide range of readers. His approach to life and relationships is both practical and profound and he is always open to engaging with readers, either in person or through social media. His fans range from married couples to single people, young to old, and he has been able to make a big impact in their lives. Whether it's his books, lectures, or workshops, Real's insights and commitment to helping people find love and joy in their lives make him a one-of-a-kind author who should be sought out by anyone looking for clarity and deeper understanding.
